Host your own Shakespeare reading

Host Your Own Shakespeare Reading

About ten years ago, I was reading an interview with Anthony Stewart Head (Giles the librarian/watcher on Buffy the Vampire Slayer) and he described what sounded to me like the most amazing experience: sitting around with a bunch of Buffy and Angel cast members in Joss Whedon’s back yard and reading Shakespeare aloud. I remember he mentioned that Joss had fairy lights in the back yard, and at the moment I read this description, all I could think was, “Oh, that I were a mosquito in that back yard, that I might listen to that play reading!”

Of course, not being a member of the Whedon stable of actors, it was highly unlikely that I would ever secure an invitation. But that didn’t mean I couldn’t steal his idea and do it myself. Over the next several years, I would from time to time dream of doing a Shakespeare play, always deciding in the end that it was too hard – they called for too many actors, the language was too difficult, blahblahexcusescakes. I desperately wanted to play Hermia in A Midsummer Night’s Dream opposite my friend Alana as Helena. But I was so good at coming up with reasons I couldn’t do it.

Until I remembered Joss’s back yard readings, and it occurred to me: the barrier to entry to a bunch of friends sitting around reading a play aloud is much lower than the barrier to entry to a fully-staged production. So I decided to copy Joss Whedon (not the first nor last time I’ve chosen that course of action) and host my own Midsummer reading.

Here are the steps I took to make it happen:

1. Settle on a play. My and Alana’s desperation for Midsummer made it an easy choice. Also, everyone loves it and it’s hilarious.

2. Settle on a location. At the time that we were doing Midsummer, I didn’t have a back yard, so I had to find somewhere else to do it. I decided on a local park.

3. Settle on a time. Certain Shakespeare plays have an inherent suggestion of when you might do them. For example… Twelfth Night is a great choice anytime in the winter holiday season, because it’s named after January 5th, the Twelfth Night of Christmas. Midsummer works brilliantly right around June 23 (coincidentally Joss Whedon’s birthday), because that’s around the time midsummer festivals are traditionally held. I think my original plan was to do June 23 but then we ended up rescheduling, but I could be misremembering.

4. Assign roles. Alana and I already had our roles all picked out. I’m the kind of jerk who insists her husband play her love interest, so we assigned Mr. Glitter the role of Lysander. Everything else was pretty much fair game. I advertised to my friends on Facebook that I was hosting the event and they eagerly indicated their choice roles. I assisted the process with an online service similar to SignUpGenius, which allowed me to simply list roles and let people claim them as they wished. My general rule is: I’m the one planning and hosting the thing, so I get to reserve roles for anybody I want. If you don’t like that some roles are pre-assigned, then go ahead and host a different reading. I’ll gladly join you or not, as you choose.

5. Acquire scripts. You might have them sitting around from a time when you had to read Shakespeare for class, or you can get them from the library, or you can download them from Project Gutenberg. My group did all three, I think.

Sonja's Nook

6. Do it already. Get everybody together, sit down, and read the play.

7. Plan the next one! After we did Midsummer, I knew I wanted to do one again. Unfortunately, the timing didn’t work out quite right, but I’ll be doing my own Much Ado About Nothing reading this summer (about a month after the Whedon version is released) for my birthday.

If you plan your own reading using these steps, please take pictures and share them with me at kiba@bringyourownglitter.com. I’d love to hear about others doing this very thing.

Now, what are you waiting for? Get out there and be Hamlet to your heart’s content!

Images courtesy Caitlyn and Sonja.

Gamifying life

Gamification is a professional and personal interest of mine. I learned back in the early oughts that I’m more likely to do just about anything when I get to turn it into a game – it’s pretty simple logic, really. I first learned it playing DDR.

About a year ago, I discovered Nerd Fitness. I love the way Steve Kamb writes, mostly because it’s full of geeky references and not-actually-that-inside jokes. As part of making healing my hobby, I’m pursuing some fitness goals, and I thought I’d head back to Steve for some ideas on how to do it. I don’t remember which of the success stories on his site included this, but in one of them, the successful person cited a D&D group as a source of support. It occurred to me that I had my very own D&D group which doesn’t strictly speaking play D&D together anymore but is a solid group of friends full of people who either want to be more fit or regularly work on fitness. So I put out the call to them and suggested we try Fitocracy as a platform for giving ourselves experience points and leveling up our fitness. The response was overwhelmingly positive (if you can call anything that involves a group of only 6 people total overwhelming) and so we’re off and on our way.

I’m interested in getting my act together more generally, which includes taking care of my home. That’s a task that is largely shouldered by Mr. Glitter at this point in time, but I’d like to help more. A tool to gamify this process is Chore Wars. In Chore Wars, you create a character who gets stats and a class depending on talents you identify yourself as having early on. I’ve tried this one in the past but it’s not so much fun as a single player game. Mr. Glitter’s gonna do his cleaning either way, so he’s not competitive about it. (Or maybe he’s just being kind and not breezing a billion levels past me every day, since my “chores” involve things like sometimes remembering to throw dirty tissues away. Sometimes.) Anyway, it’s a cool conceit, and once we’ve got a kid who is aware of gaming as a thing in the house (I anticipate this will occur in the age 2 – 3 range), it might be useful to check out again.

For general wellness, Jane McGonigal’s Superbetter is delightful. And if you want to read and think about making life more game-like generally, be sure to read her book Reality is Broken.

Gamification is an easy way to add magic to your life, I think.

Project: Kawaii Bathroom To-Do List Cross Stitch

Cross stitch is my first crafty love. I’ve been doing it so long that I couldn’t tell you how long I’ve been doing it. Crochet displaced it for a while but a few years ago, cross stitch made a comeback for me when I discovered Sprite Stitch and the beautiful fact that pixels translate to stitches perfectly.

I love a cross-stitched item as a decor object because it adds some softness to a space. We’re having a big housewarming party coming up and we wanted to get the house all properly decorated, so I stitched this for our upstairs bathroom. The pattern is from weelittlestitches on Etsy. I recommend them a thousandfold. Their patterns are PDFs that are huge and easy to read, have the embroidery colors clearly identified, and include lots of excellent stitching tips. Check out their blog as well – there are free patterns and tutorials there. Definitely one of my favorite Etsy sellers!

This pattern was quick and easy to stitch. You should especially check out weelittlestitches if you’re fond of pop culture crafts; I just bought a boatload of patterns from them including things like Firefly, Dr. Horrible, Buffy, Ninja Turtles, and Labyrinth.

I myself don’t much care for traditional cross-stitch these days, which is why I’m so happy there are people out in the world making patterns like this. Here are my top cross-stitch recs:

Subversive Cross-Stitch I think Julie Jackson pretty much started the whole hip cross stitch trend, but I suppose it’s possible I’m wrong. Anyway, check her stuff out for wry commentary on life. (I think my favorite is “welcome tiny overlord.”) Be warned: Depending on your family, you might not find this to be a family-friendly site due to language.

Sprite Stitch An awesome blog/community of folks making video game-based stitches, but they’ve also got some broader pop culture and anime options, too.

Mr. X Stitch Devoted to contemporary embroidery & needlecraft. Check out the Etsy shop, too.

 

The Nightmare Before Christmas and optimism

I love The Nightmare Before Christmas. It’s seasonal from October all the way through December – not many movies are. This Halloween, I was listening to the soundtrack and figured out part of why it resonates with me so much. So let me give you a quick outline that illustrates what I’m talking about.

If you haven’t seen the movie, go watch it now and then come back. Otherwise, you risk being spoiled.

So, here’s some major plot overview.

1. Jack Skellington is The Pumpkin King, responsible for ensuring all Halloween festivities get carried off without a hitch, and he is great at his job. But he longs for something more… (Oh hey, he has an I want song!)

2. Once he gets over into Christmasland, he’s super excited by all of the new possibilities and brings them home. But very quickly, the residents of Halloweentown twist the Christmas ideas to fit the Halloween mold (and why wouldn’t they? It’s all they know), and Jack, desperate for their cooperation, figures why not give them what they want?

3. Which is where things get really bad. And Christmas becomes a very scary time, which is not what’s supposed to happen and not what Jack wanted. But eventually Jack saves Christmas and all is set to rights, after which…

4. He has a newfound sense of optimism about Halloween. He realizes that he is AWESOME at Halloween and that’s pretty special. He realizes that Halloween doesn’t have to be the same every year; he can mix it up! And since he’s so good at Halloween, mixing it up is bound to go well.

The movie ends on a very optimistic note. And what I took away from listening to the soundtrack this Halloween was this:

Embracing your strengths does NOT mean accepting the status quo.

I think that’s an easy thing to forget sometimes. It feels good to be good at things, but we all start to feel stifled if people’s expectations seem to hem us in. But it’s important to give ourselves credit for what we’re great at, and find new ways to use it – rather than trying to mimic what somebody else is good at. Because we kind of actually are unique snowflakes, and nobody can be you better than you can. But who you are can change – and that change can come from within you, not outside of you, if you want it.

Watch this video: Gala Darling

This is Gala Darling at TEDxCMU, talking about her Radical Self Love project. Gala is a professional glitter-spreader and thus a huge inspiration. I watched this video and it just made me feel good to watch. So you should watch it, too. The beauty of TED talks, of course, is their brevity. So give Gala 14 minutes of your day. I think you’ll be glad you did.

A thing that sucks about being sickly

You’re not sick. You just can’t think of anything good to do.

I’ve always been sickly. And I’ve had social anxiety for a very long time, too. The thing about being sick, especially if you’re chronically ill, is that you’re never quite sure how sick you really are. It’s all kind of unpredictable. For example, today. I have a headache. It’s the fourth day I’ve had this headache. When I was at the doctor’s office this morning for my annual checkup and they asked me if I had any pain I said yeah, the headache, but I only rated the pain a 1 on a scale of 0 – 10 with 0 being no pain and 10 being the worst pain imaginable (a sprained ankle, in my experience). As the day went on and I wandered the fluorescently-lit aisles of Target while waiting for my prescriptions to be filled, the headache got worse.

I took the whole day off from work for this doctor’s appointment, but I had big plans for housecleaning.

And then tonight, I’m supposed to go to a voice lesson and also this cool Victorian mourning thing at a local historic site.

I started to think about canceling both of these.

Then I thought, “The headache might get better. You don’t know.”

Then I thought, “Maybe you’re just trying to avoid driving around and seeing people.”

Then I thought, “Being out might even make me forget all about the headache.”

But then I thought, “But it sure would suck if I was in the middle of a voice lesson or a cool event and the headache was much worse and I had to make it through the 25 minute drive home before retreating into the dark and quiet.”

In the end, I decided to eat and see if that made it better, to nap and see if that made it better, and most importantly of all, to communicate with the other people involved in these events and let them know about my headache and the thoughts I’m having. I’ve eaten and communicated and now I’m going to nap.

In circumstances like this, the best thing is really to just be open and honest with everybody about how you’re feeling and what you need. That’s one of the lessons that recurs in my life from time to time.

How about you? What do you do when you aren’t sure if you’re sabotaging yourself or if you have a legitimate problem?

Glinspiration: Kim Werker, Taco Hat TV, and My Boy Joss

I just contributed to this IndieGogo Campaign. I’ve been a fan of Kim Werker‘s since… gosh, I don’t know, 2004? I mean, I jumped on the Crochet Me bandwagon early and like to imagine I played a role in getting her an interview with my beloved Joss Whedon (yes, I own jossisahottie.com, thank you very), as I was one of the people she might have meant when she said “someone knew someone who knew someone that could pass our formal request to Whedon’s assistant.” (You see, back when Dr. Horrible was first released, Joss complained about the lack of coverage in crochet publications, and Kim was looking to address that gap.)

Sometimes I find somebody from somewhere else on the internet (Tara Swiger, for example, who I found through Leonie Dawson‘s World’s Biggest Summit) and then it turns out they know Kim, and it just seems like, hey. Kim’s work is meant to be in my life, by hook (a little crochet humor for you there) or by crook (I got nothin’).

Anyway, when I saw somewhere that Kim was doing this project, I got excited. See, there are a million and one crafty-makey things I want to try but the tutorials assume some prior knowledge that I don’t have. And from what I can tell, Taco Hat TV is going to give me basic skills to do cool stuff. And then maybe I won’t stare at tutorials and shake my head about how I don’t have the prerequisite knowledge, I’ll do them. Or maybe I will just mend some stuff and make my sugar-free peanut butter cookies turn out less crumbly. Who knows? I’m excited about the possibilities either way.

So, thing one:

GO SUPPORT TACO HAT TV NOW PLS KTHX.

So the glinspiration element here, that both Kim and Joss bring, can be summed up by this quote from Kim’s interview with Joss:

It is no longer the time of sitting around and thinking about doing something.

Joss is telling us here to MAKE STUFF. And I want to make stuff. I spend a lot of time playing with the right thing to make, and that’s cool. And there’s maybe not one right thing. Kim & Joss both have that to teach me, too. Right now what I make is mostly online stuff for my awesome new job. Eventually it’ll be other stuff too. A web series. An audio drama. I dunno. We’ll find out.

Kim and Joss bring their own glitter every day. And it’s inspiring. Don’t you agree?

Becoming a healing hobbyist

‘Vishuddha’ by Sundar2000

I’m a serial hobbyist. I’ve been a productivity hobbyist (and still am, to some extent). I’ve volunteered at the library, kept blogs on a variety of topics, crocheted my brains out, made stuff with Sculpey, bought a lot of beads, climbed trees, rehearsed five plays at once, taken voice lessons (still doing that), played video games, obsessed over the works of Joss Whedon, taken dance lessons, gone to two different theatre camps, been a camp counselor, read a single genre of books exclusively for months, maintained a costume closet, taken cupcakery very seriously… I’m a true renaissance soul.

Basically, I think everything is interesting. But there’s always some lingering guilt about not being fully committed to any one of these things. And there’s a little problem wherein there is only so much time in the day.

Last week, I learned that in spite of a year of treatment, my Hashimoto’s thyroiditis is the worst it’s ever been, according to the numbers. (It’s not the worst it’s ever been according to my symptoms, but it’s not the best it’s ever been, either.)

That means that for now, my main hobby is going to be healing. (And this, like crochet or theatre, will be one of those hobbies that I never drop. But if the healing is working, it might take a back seat to new hobbies. Like gardening. Or woodworking. Or bicycling.)

What does it mean for me to be a healing hobbyist?

  • Reading every book on my condition that I can get my hands on. I made a list over on my rather neglected thyroid blog, Thyroid Fantasy. I’ve apparently read eight of them but I didn’t keep very good notes or anything so I’m starting over.
  • Engaging in whatever hippie woowoo mess calls to me and seems like it might make me feel better. Because I’m not going to be cured, not without some major new science happening. So feeling better has to be the goal. Things like listening to Karen Drucker‘s music and participating more in the Goddess Circle (that’s an affiliate link, now I’ve done my FTC-mandated duty and warned you). Maybe reading this month’s issue of Wild Sister.
  • Keeping close tabs on relevant research. Mary J. Shomon shares research in her books and on her sites. I work at a University which means I have access to lots of journals. I might not get medical terminology but I find the abstracts for journal articles often make enough sense to me that I can take them to my doctor and use them to explain to her why I want a particular treatment.
  • Investigating lots of healing options. Like Duke Integrative Medicine.
  • Dealing with the basics of nutrition and activity. Starting with The Metabolism Miracle, but over time shifting to a more organic diet. (Did you know that sometimes pesticides can be endocrine disruptors?) Going for gentle walks regularly.
  • Engaging in extreme self-care. Because, as dear Mama RuPaul says to us, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”

What about you? Is healing a hobby you might like to take up?

The deal with #30DLOC and lessons learned

Here’s the deal, you guys. I started the 30 day loved one challenge in response to something out on the interwebs that I didn’t like very much because it was limiting and suggested relationship dynamics that I found distressing. It was its own 30 day challenge. And my framework was to write one of my own posts for each day of that challenge.

But around Day 21, the suggestions for that challenge started getting pretty repetitive and I started losing interest. And I was trying to write a post on Day 23 for Day 21, after already writing the posts for days 17 – 20 all in one go.

So your question might be: was I nicer to the people I love during this challenge?

You’re not going to like the answer.

I’m already pretty nice to the people I love. The challenge did focus my expression of that love a bit and gave me some new ways to think about telling them. But it didn’t change my behavior in any big way (probably because you didn’t actually do it right, Mean!Kiba says in my head), and I’m okay with that.

Will I ever write days 21 to 30? Maybe. Maybe in November I’ll revive the whole thing. Don’t know yet.

But even though it didn’t change how I treated Mr. Glitter and Glitter Sister (and Mr. Glitter Sister, Pintester, or Alana, all of whom got shout-outs at some point in the series), I learned some stuff. And I’m going to share that with you! Aren’t you grateful?

I am a cyclical creative.

This is the lesson I keep learning. (Actually, that I’m a cyclical person more generally.) Alexandra Franzen asks, what are your cellular obstacles? and this is mine: trying to work against my nature. (I’ve been pondering the question for weeks, what is the lesson I keep having to learn? And this is it. or one of them. And it just came to me now. Kind of. Except I keep learning it all the time. Eh. You get the point.)

When I started planning #30DLOC, I sat down and banged out a bunch of the posts, really quickly. And it happened again with the second batch of posts. And then, as I got behind, it just naturally happened again and again. This is how I work. It is how I work and I need to learn to work with it. I’ve spent a lot of time in life working on consistency, setting daily-type goals for myself, and things where I force myself to stick to those regimens just lead to burnout and disinterest.

Last November, on the Monday I went back to work after Thanksgiving, I had about 30,000 words of my NaNoWriMo written. But on November 30, around 11 pm, I was officially a winner. Yes, I wrote 20,000 words in three days.

And it was fine. This is how my work happens. It has been the case since I was very small. For a while I thought it was about procrastination but I know now that’s not true. It’s not the deadline that pushes me to do the work. It’s my energy and interest (which happen to be assisted by a deadline). I sometimes make a big push at the beginning of a project, just as big as the push at the end. And it’s not even necessarily a project-sized cycle. I might plod along early, get a big push in the middle, and then fade back out again.

The thing is, I need to accept this. It is a fundamental aspect of who I am. And instead of working in gently measured ways on those days when I’m full of energy, I need to grab them and go. I need to ride that wild donkey of energy and interest, push as much work out of myself as I can, and then be happy and content on the days when I just don’t have the oomph to get it done.

If I’d kept on writing posts on those two glorious post-churning days, instead of being like, “That’s probably enough, you should really stop now,” I probably would’ve had all 30 posts “in the can,” as it were.

But I didn’t, and that’s okay too.

Fun stuff should be fun.

Okay, this is my other cellular obstacle. I won’t do “fun things” that aren’t fun if somebody else organizes them, so why on earth would I do “fun things” that aren’t fun just because I organized them? That’s ridiculous. And this is my fun playtime blog. So when writing here becomes tedious (as, indeed, it did with #30DLOC), it’s probably time to switch topics.

So yeah.

Keep things fun and take advantage of the big energy when it comes.

That’s what I learned.

This was a long post. You deserve a reward.